As a movement to end domestic violence, we need to reframe the problem as a community movement that affects everyone-and build the case that we could truly end domestic violence with the right dedication, ideas, and actions.BWCCADV 2015-2018 Strategic Plan
listen. believe. speak out.
use the resources on this page to learn how to listen and believe survivors, and speak out to promote healthy relationships and end domestic violence.
domestic violence action month (dvam), October 2017
Listen. Believe. Speak Out. To promote healthy relationships and end domestic violence in Whatcom County. Together we can end domestic violence.
To take part:
- Check out our DVAM 31 days of actions calendar.
- Choose one action from the calendar and make it happen.
- Tell 3 people in your social network about the 31 days of action calendar, the action you chose, and how it went.
educate yourself, educate others
After you check out these resources, share them with others in your life – then have a conversation about what you learned.
Ask your book club to select, read, and reflect on a book that includes abuse and/or healthy relationships, or start your own book club. Find book ideas and discussion questions here.
Watch the See It and Stop It video about Teen Dating Violence.
Learn about why it’s important to notice abuse; watch It’s Up to Us to Listen.
A lot of abuse isn’t physical. Read the article What It Feels Like to Be the Victim of Emotional Abuse?
Have you ever wondered, Why doesn’t the victim just leave? Watch the TED Talk by Leslie Morgan Steiner to find out.
Listen to What’s Going On In There, a real story about adolescent relationship abuse, on the This American Life podcast.
End domestic violence homicide in Whatcom County. Read the report: It happened in our town: Findings and recommendations from the Whatcom County Domestic Violence Fatality Review (DVFR). Identify the recommendations that apply to you. Implement those recommendations in your life and in your spheres of influence. Contact the DV Commission for implementation support.
Is my Relationship Healthy? Find out by taking the quiz now.
Are you a good partner? Take the quiz to find out.
Have you ever wanted to help a friend in an abusive relationship? Take the How Would You Help Quiz at loveisrespect.org to see how ready you are.
Take the Cool Not Cool quiz to find out if you know how much texting is too much texting in a relationship.
promote prevention and policy change
Make a date with someone you love of any age to talk to them about healthy relationships; use WSCADV’s resource cards – How’s Your Relationship? Chat about love with those you love.
Set a time to talk with someone who you think might be abusive to help them notice their behaviors; use WSCADV’s resource cards – How’s Your Relationship? Conversations with someone about their abusive behaviors.
Talk to your child’s coach about implementing the domestic violence prevention curriculum Coaching Boys Into Men. “Coaches are uniquely poised to positively influence how young men think and behave both on, and off, the field.”
Address domestic violence at your place of employment. Utilize the DV Commission’s Domestic Violence in the Workplace Policy and Procedure Template to develop and adopt best-practice policies and procedures for responding to survivors and abusers in the context of the workplace. Then contact the DV Commission for training and other support when implementing those policies and procedures.
Reach out to your faith community and ask them to utilize the resource Responding to Domestic Violence: A Toolkit for Faith Communities in Whatcom County. The toolkit is a comprehensive guide for clergy and laypeople to be both proactive and reactive in responding to abuse. Contact the DV Commission for support and training.
Check out the Ferndale School District’s Response Protocol for relationship abuse and sexual assault, and ask your child’s school to adopt it as their protocol, too.